It is a world of misconceptions. Often a person who presents hi or her self honsetly is still misunderstood, or even lied about. It's best to look for the good in others, while acting with alacrity and accuracy on actual undeniable malice against yourself. And as to friends: be friends with yourself first. Interestingly, viewing others positively can make it easier for a person to be friends with the person's own self. Excuse and forgive others -- honest forgiveness does not deny dangers and realized harms -- but still forgive. That is practise for forgiving yourself. Likewise mitigate the dangers and risks in behavior that you yourself pose to all around you. Mostly that means to learn more, practise second thoughts, counting to ten, etc. etc. Turn off the TV, back out of "social media". "Social Media" is a madhouse, an actual hall of the insane, a trap.